Sexuality – Get this right


Sexuality – Get this right

  • We are all sexual beings. We may be sexually active or not, yet we are sexual beings.
  • Sexuality includes our thoughts, feelings, perspectives.  It is not limited to the sexual act alone.
  • Sexuality can be expressed both positively as well as negatively.
  • When sexuality is positive

Why Talk Sexuality?

Benefit to our selves. Talking about sexuality, is in other words talking about our bodies, our feelings, our likes, loves, and attractions. It is also talking about our dislikes, fears, and doubts. What is it that gives us pleasure? What is it that gives us pain? Which people do we like to be with? Are there those who make us feel uncomfortable? Why?

Are we able to explain to a health practitioner exactly where we have pain, or a discharge, the nature of an itch? How long is it before we even begin to talk about it? Are we able to talk about / to persons we are attracted to, to those we love? How open can we be about sexual preferences? About relationships? About marriage?

Talking about sexuality openly to a friend, family members, people we love is important. It helps us understand our selves, and others better. It clears misunderstandings, and ensures healthy behavior. As children itself we learn that matters related to sexuality are better not spoken of at all, or if they are then it is in hushed tones. The media, through advertising, movies, and television serials also portray sexuality norms and roles, which we mimic inadvertently. This too results in confusion.

As a result, we are unable to understand and communicate matters of sexuality very well.

Each person needs to understand without shame or guilt, the changes that take place in their own body with puberty, with sexual activity, with pregnancy, menopause, old age etc. When, we clear doubts, and misunderstandings, we are able to live life more fully.

Benefits to our families and communities: An open discussion about sexuality within families and communities opens channels of communication and also supports us to live healthy lives. It is important for children and young adults to be able to voice their confusions, and be able to understand what values such as respect, equality and diversity really mean. This also helps in comprehending acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Open discussions about sexuality lead to better self image, and confidence in young people. It also results in less violence.

Benefits to Society in general:   Almost every single day, the Indian media reports, cases of sexual violence on women and on children. An open discussion on sexuality is important to address this issue. Violence is indicative of a lack of discussion on such matters. The matter of clothes, of public spaces, of restrictions on women, young adults, sexual preferences etc make life unbearable for a vast number of people.   These are issues of human rights, and need urgent discussion.

  1. Raj says

    Bina condom ni gf sobt sexx Kel but sprem aatmde nhi thakl ….sex ntr 10day ntr regular date Ali but next date ajun 6 day jhal Ali nhi plz help me

    1. let's talk sexuality says

      संभोग करताना वीर्यस्खलनाच्या वेळी वीर्य योनीजवळ पडले किंवा योनीत वीर्यपतन केलेच नाही असे असले, तरीही वीर्य योनीमध्ये आजिबात जाणारच नाही असे खात्रीने म्हणता येणार नाही. फक्त एक पुरूषबीज गर्भधारणेसाठी पुरेसे असते. त्यामुळे गर्भधारणेची शक्यता नाकारता येत नाही. गर्भधारणा नको असेल तर योग्य ते गर्भनिरोधक वापरणे हाच एकमेव आणि सुरक्षित पर्याय आहे.

      पाळीची तारीख उलटून गेली असेल तर सर्वात आधी एक करा, दिवस गेले आहेत का याची खात्री करा. प्रेग्नन्सी टेस्ट करण्यासाठीची किट बाजारात मिळतात. त्यावरील सूचनांप्रमाणे लघवीची तपासणी केली तर दिवस गेले आहेत का हे समजू शकेल. जर टेस्ट निगेटिव्ह असेल तर थोडे दिवस पाळीची वाट बघा (मसिक पाळीचे चक्र नियमित असेल). पॉसिटीव्ह असेल तर तर स्त्रीरोगतज्ज्ञांना भेटा आणि तपासणी करा.

  2. Prachi says

    Mi 2month adi sex kel hota tya natr pali ali nhi ani mi check pn kel prega news ni 2 vela pn report noramal ahe tr mg tri problem ala nhi

    1. let's talk sexuality says

      पहिला गोष्ट की पाळीला पाळी म्हणणं जास्त योग्य राहील. तो काही प्रोब्लेम वैगेरे नसतो.
      जास्त टेंशन नका घेऊ. शारीरिक संबंधांच्या वेळी निरोधचा वापर केला असल्यास घाबरण्याचे काही कारण नाही. निरोधचा वापर न केल्यामुळे तुम्ही अति ताण तर नाही घेतला ना?
      कारण अति ताणामुळे पाळी लवकर येणे वा लांबण्याची शक्यता असते. तुम्ही शक्य झाल्यास डॉक्टरांना भेटून घ्या.

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